Sunday, November 29, 2009

Patiently waiting...trying to be at least

If I'm calculating things correctly I should start my period in 4-6 days. Which totally makes sense because I cried watching Tinker Bell last night. Which always happens (crying, no matter what it is) right before I get ready to start. So, that being said, since that did happen (right on schedule), I'm thinking I'm probably not pregnant yet. Also, I've been telling myself for the last week that I don't think it's going to happen yet. I think it's my defense mechanism, just in case. That way I'm not so let down.

I'm heading out the door to go to Bi-Mart. In which I will probably pick up a pregnancy test and take it anyway. That First Response one says it can detect up to 5 days before your missed period. Soooo...well, I don't know if I'll use it or not. If I can just hold out for 5 more days I'll be closer to knowing.

Until next time....

Sunday, November 22, 2009

Anxiously waiting

Well, I called the Dr. I was interested in seeing and she is not taking new patients right now. I'm super bummed. I'm thinking about calling back to see if there is a waiting list to be put on. I'm sure I have some time to spare, although, it would be nice to see someone before hand.

I took the initiative to talk to Kendra about her dad & I having a baby. She was good w/ it. She said the only thing that would be a bummer is that she will be leaving for college & won't have a good opportunity to get to know her sibling. But all & all she's excited.

We asked Brielle is she wanted a baby in the family. She said she wanted 2 baby brothers & 2 baby sisters. LOL! We told her that wasn't going to happen. I think she'll just be happy to have someone younger than her to grow up with.

I've also started telling more friends that we were going to start trying again. Even though some of then think I'm absolutely crazy, they are all very excited as well. I'm trying not to get my hopes up, but I'm anxiously waiting for early December. I should start (or not start) my period somewhere around the 5th. It's only 2 weeks away. I know the chances of it happening on our first try are probably low, but I'm still very anxious. I try to relax about it though. It is what it is.

Thursday, November 19, 2009

Taking "baby" steps

Today I called my Primary Care Dr. to see if I should discontinue taking the medication I am on. I'm currently taking an SSRI. In other words, an anti-depressent. It's really helped, but I've been taking it for a while, so hopefully I won't go too crazy w/out it. The advise was to stop taking it, so I will continue to stop taking it. I've been off it for at least a week. I was never good at taking it daily anyway. I also placed a call to a Dr. that two of my friends have seen for their pregnancies. I hear she's really good, so if she's available I'm gonna give it a go. However, just so happens that the office is closed on Thursdays, so I'll try again tomorrow morning.

A few nights ago I had a conversation w/ my 9-year-old. She is one of those kids who is so sweet, but also needs to constantly know that she is loved. I didn't want her to feel like a new addition would push her away, or that she wouldn't get the attention she needs. Also, a new baby would mean eventually she would have to give her room up and move downstairs. She would be the only one downstairs. That can't be a good feeling. So I had to tread lightly. And with her, well, she doesn't like suprises in that regard. She needs time to prepare. Ends up she's good w/ the idea. After I told her what a wonderful big sister she already is. And that with a room downstairs she will have more privacy. Currently our oldest is in that room, but with her plans to go to college in the fall, the room will be availalbe.

I talked to my husband last night about him talking to her (our oldest). It never even crossed his mind. I told him I will do it, but I think it would mean more coming from him. Or, we can both do it together, which might be the best option. I guess I'm just feeling like I want them to know. Since it's a decision that will affect us all at some level. I just like being open & having it out there.

I haven't talked to my parents about it yet. I figure it's just one of those things that will come up in conversation. I'm not going to place a special phone call just to let them know that we've decided to start trying. It's not like we're even pregnant yet. It really could take quite a while.

I've told a few friends, not many though. Oh how I want to send my blog link to everyone. I just haven't gathered the courage to put it out there like that yet. :)

Wednesday, November 18, 2009

To try or not to try

My husband and I have 3 kids. He has a 17-year-old, I have a 9-year-old, and we have a 4-year-old together. We were both young when we had our first kids. He was 19 when he had his daughter. I was 20 when I had mine. When we had our youngest it was better. I was 26 & he was 32. But even when we had our little one together it still was not planned like we talked about wanting to do. Now don't get me wrong, an unplanned pregnancy does not mean unwanted. Our girls are so special to us and we couldn't imagine our lives without them. After we had our daughter we really talked about it and decided that was it. Our family was complete & we had no plans to have any more. My husband had no problem with the idea of getting a vasectomy. After all, I'm the one that carried our daughter and gave birth to her (with no pain medication or drugs of any kind). He can handle a simple procedure. But, he continued to put it off. After a while we started talking about it and it became apparent that he wasn't really 100% sure if he wanted to be done. I knew I didn't want to have another child until we were married. I just felt strong about it. For a long time it was still back & forth. Should we or shouldn't we? He would love to try again to see if we could add a boy to our family. I'd like that too, but we know the odds are 50/50. But also, we agree that it would be nice to have another together and to plan it this time.

Well, we've been married now for 3 months, and yes, baby talks have been coming up again. I am 30, he will be 37 next month. It's now or never. Our youngest is 4, our oldest is getting close to 18. Yes, it's now or never. It's time to make a decision. What will this mean? Then all the good questions & bad questions come up. Do we have enough room in our house? Do we have enough money? We are almost done paying for daycare, we'll have to do it again. I had plans to learn to surf. I have girls beach trips & softball to play in the summer. Okay, really? I can miss all that. I can pick back up where I left off next year. But aside from what I can't do think of what I can do. I can nurture a life until it's healthy enough to live on it's own. Me, I can do that! What a miracle.

So, my husband is ready & leaving it up to me. He wants to if I want to. But he will totally respect it if I don't want to get pregnant again. I don't want to be pregnant, I don't enjoy being pregnant. Wasn't I just saying great things? Okay, weight gain, growing belly, so uncomfortable! The things we do for our kids. It's starts at conception doesn't it? But I do want to have another child with him. And yes, we hope for a boy, but pray for a healthy child. So, the decision has been made. We are going to try. I've gone online to check ovulation calendars to see when the best time to try would be, and we gave it a shot this month. Now it's a waiting game.

I've never done it this way before. It's so different. To actually plan it all out. I don't know how I'm going to feel when next month rolls around and I'm not pregnant. I think I could handle it once, but how could I take it month after month? I know that so many people go through it. I've just never been there, so I can't say I know how it feels or that I understand, because I don't.

Well, that's it for now. Wish us luck! Hopefully we'll be bringing a beautiful healthy baby into the world in 2010.